24 Jul
The black star weeps today
A black day, a black Tuesday.
O wicked ‘friend’,
Our dear wicked friend
O Death…
The black star cries
Our father, now he lies
O death
My heart, my eyes
O Breath
The black star has fallen
Sorrow on us befallen
O father,
Our state, our pain
O Death
The black star will rise
But yet we ask why
O Atta
Rest in perfect peace.
Asomodwe hene,
Christ wins, you win
Now rest, Our dear president…
Derrick Ofori Donkor – 24th July 2012
17 Jul
Prologue.
She looked up, as if her words were written on the white pages of the cloud. It’s been hard for her and sometimes I have the feeling, she is turning into a stone, not just a stone but the hardest stone ever.
“I broke up with him because I told him I wasn’t happy. He did not even ask why. I thought he would ask me not to go. He never asked. He just watched me go, without a word from his mouth. I could not tell if he was happy or sad… Oo I lost the guy I have waited for so long and loved all my life. He is gone and gone forever” She said carefully selecting the words she used. Tears rolled down her eyes. My shoulder wasn’t far from her hug and tears.
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I am not a relationship or marriage counselor, but to my best of knowledge, the most discussed topic on the social network is on relationship. In one way or another we come to meet the word ‘relationship’ at some point in our lives. Not everyone though, catholic priests hardly come across the word. (Relationship here is simply defined as the kind of relationship that that involves physical or emotional intimacy being it marriage or boy-girlfriend).
Personally I feel that no one can really define the best relationship but only those who have the best relationship or best still only those involve can define the subject according to how they see it; not withstanding the fact that we have good examples of good relationships which can guide you on how to make your relationship a better one. And one more important point is without God, forget about the best.
Truth be told:
What determines a good relationship or a bad one? how can you tell whether this relationship or that relationship is a happy one? I have witnessed a spouse being mercilessly beaten by the other partner, and I wonder who will want to be in such messy relationship. And to my disappointment, I find out that this ‘horrible’ relationship according to the ‘boxer’ and the ‘punching bag’ are the happiest lovers ever. They are inseparable. They are like “shrek an ogre” and “princess Fiona”. The only difference is shrek does not beat his princess despite the fact that he is not really handsome.
On the other hand, I have witnessed the prince charming and the Cinderella kind of love, where gentleness is clearly seen in the relationship but yet still both complain that they are not happy in the relationship and would give a million $$ to quit the relationship.
So who can tell who can tell what relationship is good or bad? If you ask me, I will say no one can tell, only God and you.
The deal
Choosing a someone to be in a relationship with depends on so many factors, but mostly we sum it to the fact that it depends on love, so we take it as such. I think the best one is when it is based on friendship. My reason being; it last for long or mostly end up in the “happy ever after kind of love”.
At the early stages of relationship, where the whole love-thing is so fresh like the morning dew, it is so nice, so interesting, so fun like what the fairy tales and the love movies have made us to believe. The feeling is so nice like you are not part of this world. But with time the fire goes down and if you do not ‘fuel’ it you are on your way to losing love. Sustaining the love is one hell of a problem and only those with God giving strength are able to overcome this ‘burden’.
A friend of mine used to tell me that every relationship is like a moving vehicle, it can crash at anytime. I did not agree with him till I realized that the statement is so true and how you repair the crush “vehicle” determines if it will still be the same or just another ‘wretched vehicle’ you do not want to have.
Hmmm As I said earlier on I am not a counselor, I am just a simple guy with lot on his mind. Wish to write more but I will leave it for the counselors.
Epilogue
He took another bottle, I was worried now. This was his third bottle of beer. I had to control that before he lost his head. He was losing it. It has been a month and he couldn’t just get over it. Sometimes I get this feeling like he was melting.
“She broke up with me because she said she wasn’t happy. I was too hurt to ask why. I wanted to stop her from leaving but I couldn’t. I couldn’t come to terms with the fact that I was the one who made her unhappy. I just wanted her to be happy so I let her go, just like like that. I lost the girl I have always wanted to be with” He threw his bottle, and thank God I had been playing dodge balls.
(You can read only the prologue and the epilogue if you don’t love reading …lol)
(C) Derrick Ofori Donkor
All rights reserved …. (17th July 2012)
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